Thursday, April 3, 2008

NINE SUGGESTIONS FOR AN AILING MARRIAGE

1. Never consider divorce an option. It is not a solution to your problem. Divorce is not an acceptable alternative because God says it is not.

2. Do not compare your mate or your marriage to others. There is not another person on earth like you. Your mate is also unique. This means that your marriage is unique. Let God make it what He wants it to be. He will make it perfect!

3. Forgive your mate. You are to forgive as Christ has forgiven you. You are a sinner. He or she is a sinner. You are not perfect-so be willing to forgive one another. And do it right away before any bitterness can build up.

4. Stop all criticism. Love does not criticize and find fault. Therefore, if you are critical of your mate, you do not have a heart of love. Stop all criticism. Instead, try a little praise. It works like magic!

5. Start communicating with your mate. Communication is completely broken down in many homes and marriages. Start listening to what your mate is saying as well as to what he or she is not saying. Break down the barriers by being vulnerable. Try saying, "Honey, what is the biggest fault I have?" Then say, "Would you please help me, by the grace of God, to gain victory over that fault?"

6. Refuse any relationship outside your marriage in which affection is sought or given. This substitute could even be a relative, a friend, or a neighbor. Do not seek to make someone else a substitute for what you are not getting in your marriage. You will never solve your problem doing this.

7. Trust your mate. Trust your spouse, even if he or she is wrong -you are right in trusting. A marriage must be based on trust. It cannot survive without it.

8. Do something every day to please your mate-something that you know will bring your partner joy and happiness. This is not asking much-to do one thing-but it pays big dividends.

9. Thank God every day for the 25 best qualities in your mate. Write them down. Concentrate on them and the positive will soon outshine the negative.

Okay, I’ll give you an extra
10 —Plan a second honeymoon! For further assistance read Songs of Solomon. ;-) – Contributed by www.naijaecash.com

13 comments:

Tabitha said...

Your post has come at a timely time in my life. I was contemplating a separation from my husband because for ten years he has chosen to believe his mother's lies instead of me. Today he told me he didn't trust me. This has been difficult since I'm not sure what has happened to not have his trust.

BroTee said...

@Tabitha
I thank God that He has used this article to touch you. It is my prayer that the Lord will see you through this trying period as you hold unto your trust in Him. It is well with you. Shalom

nabink said...

hey,

I am impressed with the marquee on the header.

How do u do it?

nabin

BroTee said...

@nabin
Thanks for visiting. I got the marquee script from http://www.dynamicdrive.com you can check them out. They have a lot of free stuff you can use. Cheers.

Robert Di-Salvo said...

What a well written article do you have a Calvary Chapel in Nigeria?

Rob
Random Thoughts

BroTee said...

@Robert
I don't know of any. But there may be one somewhere. Nigeria is quite big.
Thanks for visiting my blog.

Matthew C. Keegan said...

Excellent advice! Remembering that Jesus Christ is part of the marriage can help believers who put their relationship in His hands.

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

Hey Bro T, haven't been here in a while but liked this post. Seems like we are all thinking about marriage because I wrote a marriage post at the ...Easier... blog in response to Arewa's.

It's at solomonsydelle.com. If you ever have time check it out. Thanks for this post.

Channelofhealing said...

Great article and am happy a man wrote this too.
thanks brotee.

Koala Gal said...

Hi Hi Brotee,
Marriage is so important in our life!

Koala Gal

Koala Gal said...

Hey Brotee,
Want to invite you to be a reader of my blog, but I can't find your email...

April said...

These are wonderful suggestions. Good enough that if someone needed to save their marriage, I think they would work!!! Thanks for sharing.

BroTee said...

@Koala Gal
I visited some of your blogs, but I was denied access. When next you come around, check me at www.naijaecash.com You can drop a note on my contact page. Cheers.